Old-Fashioned Motherhood in a Newfangled World

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Old-Fashioned Motherhood in a Newfangled World
When I was younger I remember hearing the older generation say things like “Boy things sure have changed since I was younger.” or “What has this world come to?”
Nowadays, I might be considered the older generation but that’s OK, I’m convinced that the years I have behind me have given me a valuable perspective.  As an older mom, I think that it’s worth taking some time to evaluate how we’re living as mothers, why we’re doing what we’re doing and how we can pursue a lifestyle where we embrace old-fashioned motherhood in this newfangled world.
You’re probably wondering what “fangled” is but quite frankly I have no idea I just thought it made for a great title.
Let’s face it, times have changed, they really have but if you’re a young mom you may not have recognized this. Motherhood, for example, is much different than it was even ten years ago and it’s extremely different than it was in biblical times. Change isn’t always bad, however, we’ve had positive changes such as the technological advancements which have made our lives easier, or those that our homeschool pioneers before us paved to make home education an acceptable and preferable school choice.
More than ever women want it all and that statement has never been truer than in the present age. We want to be able to have a great marriage, stay at home with our children, choose how our children are educated, and we also want to be successful in a career or an at-home business. Most often that desire is out of necessity because let’s face it, it’s hard to make it on one income. The result is that we spread ourselves thin and stress ourselves out in order to do it all. via… Click To Tweet We rarely have the time to do any one thing with excellence.

Becoming An Old-Fashioned Mom

I remember when I first became a mom and made that difficult decision to give up my career for diapers, breastfeeding and taking care of my baby and home. I had a lot of backlash from coworkers who felt I was going to waste my life and my talent. That was a choice I had to make and in my heart, I knew I was honoring God by choosing to sacrifice my own desires for that of my family. Twenty-three years later I can honestly tell you it was the best choice I’ve ever made.
Caught Up In All The Noise
Mothers are strong, resourceful and determined but at the same time, we can get caught up in all of the noise that world is making all around us. Messages that tell us that we’re not enough, we’re not doing enough, we shouldn’t homeschool our children, we’re not significant unless we’re following our dreams, have 10,000 followers on social media or maybe we’re hearing the lie that we should never have given up our career to be at home with our children.

If you were to go back in time to view old-fashioned motherhood what would you see?

I’m not talking about the 1950s but rather way back to biblical motherhood. Titus 2 discusses what a biblical woman looks like as it addresses the role of motherhood.
Teach the older women likewise, that they be reverent (respectable) in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things—  that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children,  to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.
Titus 2:3-5
Rather than take this verse apart I’m just going to highlight a few things here. As old-fashioned or biblical mothers we are to be respectable in our behavior, we shouldn’t be slandering others or drinking too much rather we should be teaching good things. The older women should be teaching the younger women to love their husbands and children and to take care of their homes. What better way than to teach by example. We’re told to do these things so that we don’t blaspheme the word of God.
Proverbs 31 goes through a detailed list of the characteristics of a godly woman starting with verse 10. You can read it here. This biblical woman is busy but productive, taking care of her family and home and it might surprise you but scripture even says that she works. Doesn’t that sound like women today? I’ve read in some commentaries that the Proverbs 31 woman isn’t a description of what a woman should do at one season in her life but rather a description of what she does throughout the many seasons of her life.

Doing Life Well

Recently, I was watching the TV show Shark Tank. A very determined woman stood before the 4 Sharks hoping to gain their support after presenting her business venture. She needed their financial support as well as their expertise in order to make her business grow and succeed. She proceeded to list off the many things that she accomplishes in a given day in order to show the sharks that she had drive and determination. In fact, she kept highlighting how busy she was and how much she did on any given day. She was a wife and mom, she taught several yoga classes in the morning, took care of her children, ran a business, helped out at her children’s school and took care of her home. She was hoping the Sharks would be impressed by her drive and busyness but instead, they felt she was spreading herself too thin.
Rather than commend her she was admonished with a message I think we should all take to heart.
“You’ve spread yourself too thin and you’re trying to do too many things. Whenever you choose to focus on one thing you choose not to focus on the others. You can only do one thing very well and you have to choose what that one thing is.”
We can do many things but we can’t-do many things very well. We all have the same number of hours in a day and we get to choose how we’ll use them. Instead of listening to all of the messages around us and feeling pulled by what we think we should do may I suggest taking some time to evaluate what you’re filling your days with. What are your priorities, what is the most important thing in your life, how much time do you need to focus on that in order to do it well? It may not be the season for you to pursue certain interests but in a few years, it might be.
Old-Fashioned Motherhood in a Newfangled World
In order to pursue old-fashioned motherhood, it’s imperative to pursue biblical motherhood. Seek God in all you do and lay before Him your desires, your calendar, and your to-do lists. As you evaluate how you’re implementing motherhood ask God to show you what it is you should be focusing on in order to do it well.
You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you, you just can’t-do them all at the same time.

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Tricia Soderstrom

I'm a faithful wife, a follower of Jesus and homeschool mom who found myself in the trenches with chronic Lyme Disease. I discovered that it is possible to Abound In HOPE during those dark times and I learned how my family and I could regain our health. I blog about tick-borne diseases, homeschooling with chronic illness and encouragement for the journey!

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