3 Ways to Abide in Christ Through the Difficult Times of Motherhood

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3 Ways to Abide in Christ Through the Difficult Times of Motherhood

Hey mama, do you find it difficult to get out of bed in the morning? Are you making time to Abide in Christ?

6 AM rolls around and you roll over again and again and push snooze, dreading to start the busy day. The craziness of recent days pops into your thoughts as soon as you open your eyes.

Cereal spills, missing shoes, nothing to wear, whining, fussing, arguing, grocery shopping, deadlines, homeschooling drama, cooking, cleaning, laundry and the list goes on and on! There are a whole lot of us moms that are just surviving day-to-day, living joyless, peaceless and lacking contentment or purpose. 

There are a whole lot of us moms that are just surviving day to day, living joyless, peaceless… Click To Tweet I’ve been there and still often find myself back in seasons of this mundane way of living.

I’m a homeschool mom and when I first started homeschooling, it took me awhile to realize that I wasn’t taking the time to abide in Christ.  I thought I could do it all on my own, without Him. I soon learned that as I strived to teach my children, my way, the way I was taught, it was difficult. We were stressed instead of walking in peace.

Driven by Fear

I was driven by fear. My big mistake was I thought my homeschooled kids had to perform at a higher level.  I got caught up in the dreaded comparison trap. We were being scrutinized by public school families around us. I felt like I had to prove myself, my worth to teach them. People were judging and testing us at every turn. What’s 2+2? Can you tie your shoes yet? How many do you see? Can you count? Can you tell time? Ugh! Enough!

But, I did let the fear drive me for awhile. They had the best curriculum, that they were being taught every subject daily for as many hours as public school was in session. I was still in the rat race of public school in my own home.

I was literally force feeding them as much information as I  possibly could, so they would be on the fast track to college. Really? Come on it’s preschool & kindergarten. What was I thinking? They were overworked and actually weren’t learning anything. Joyless, peaceless and without contentment or purpose. All I knew was God wanted me to homeschool. Didn’t think to ask Him how?

Time to Pause and Abide in Christ

This wasn’t the journey God had for us.  We were called out for a purpose.  Not for my perfect plan for my kids, not the same as other kids, but for His.  We were called out, to be different a peculiar people. Soon after I felt God telling me to pause and put Him first and I will see the fruit of it right away.  Thus my blog Kingdom First Homeschool was birthed. I had to press pause and learn to abide in Christ.

But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Matthew 6:33

Matthew 6:33

As I surrendered my life and everything within it to not only His call for our homeschool, but for my marriage, being a mom, finances, health etc. Soon, I started to bear much fruit within every area of my life. Miracles and breakthroughs started to unfold, peace was returning, fear and doubt could no longer grip me.  I was being set free by Jesus.

I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing.
John 15:5

The word “abide” simply means “to remain”.  (Remain in Christ) So that is what I did.

Now 8 years into homeschooling I can say that it just flows and grows.  My children and I are so blessed to be together in His midst every day, just sitting at His feet, each of us growing & learning through His Word, being guided towards His perfect plan for us. I was once a Martha, but now a Mary (Luke 10:38-42).

3 Ways to Abide in Christ Daily

1 – Get With God First Thing in the Morning Daily

I know what you are probably saying…”I wake up and have to hit the ground running, how am I supposed to do this?” You may not have time in the season you are in for deep Bible study, but that’s okay, God knows and guess what He’s not mad atcha.  Just open up to Him while you are on the run, committing your race to Him today and acknowledge Him throughout the craziness, and your race will be a more peaceful one.

Commit everything you do to the LORD. Trust him, and he will help you. -Psalm 37:5

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2 – Schedule Time With God

Even though we know above all else, time with God should be our first priority we still get busy and before we know it another day has come and gone.  We end up putting everything else in line before the Almighty.  It is so easy to get caught up in the “just get thru another day ” routine. It should not be this way.  We can change the way we look at our everyday life.

I have found that if I don’t specifically set aside time, meaning, SCHEDULE SPECIFIC TIME WITH GOD, He gets little to no time throughout my day and by 2:00 I’m stressed and by 2:05 I’m angry and irrationally lashing out at my family.  I always felt like something was missing, throughout the day, but I just couldn’t break the pattern.

If you are in a really busy season like a new baby, pray while you are nursing in the wee hours of the night. Maybe you are a homeschooling mom — put it in your lesson plans. Make time, naptime, shower time, bedtime, when you wake, while you are driving back and forth from co-ops or sports practices, schedule it in. Eventually, you will notice (and this actually happened to me) after you force it into your schedule and make prayer/reading time a priority, all of a sudden you’ll find that you have extra time to just devote to God.

3 Ways to Abide in Christ Through the Difficult Times of Motherhood

3 – Listen to Podcasts While You Clean

Listening to podcasts has really helped me through many seasons of struggling to abide in Christ. Instead of being stressed out and feeling overworked while I do my daily cleaning tasks, decluttering, doing dishes, cleaning the bathrooms (my least favorite chore), or folding laundry. I put my bluetooth headphones in and listen to a few podcasts and get refreshed.

A few of my favorites are Joyce Meyer, The God-Centered Mom, Revive Our Hearts with Nancy DeMoss Wolgumuth, and of course my dear friend Melanie Wilson’s The Homeschool Sanity Show.

So mama, if you are feeling overwhelmed or stressed, or it seems like you just can’t do it all, teach them enough, give them the education they deserve. Please don’t listen to these lies, God has called you out for a reason. He surely has placed everything within you to teach them the way He has planned for their future, whatever it may be.

If you are saying “that’s me”, then I implore you now mama, to take a step back, look at the bigger picture, surrender and abide in Christ. In the words that God spoke to my heart – if you put Him first you will see the fruit of it right away. Step out in faith and let Him take the wheel. Faith is not a feeling, it is simply a choice to trust God! Click To Tweet  I pray total peace upon you and your household.

These are just a few ways to abide in Christ, if you have more tips to share I would love to hear them.

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Forest Rose

Forest Rose

Author/Owner at Kingdom First Homeschool
Forest Rose is a God Loving, Blessed Wife, & Relaxed, Eclectic Homeschooling Mama to 3 girls - 7, 10, & 11 in Fort Wayne, Indiana. She's passionate about lifting moms out of the homeschooling trenches that are discouraged, overwhelmed or feeling alone or isolated. Her hope is to point them to Christ and equip them to rise up with a new found hope and joy within, that He alone can provide. Besides her blog, Kingdom First Homeschool, Forest loves to hang out at her exclusive Facebook Group, "Homeschooling 101 Community" helping new homeschoolers thrive.
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