This has been a rough year for my family. For my marriage.
I won’t go into any of the details, other than to share, I spent months asking myself “how did we get here?”.
What’s yours is yours, what’s mine is mine.
Allow me to give you a little bit of a background. We got married at 18, and our first child was born 2 months later. Neither one of us had a clue of what we were doing right from the start. We had serious financial struggles for at least the first 15 years of our marriage, and when our financial woes were finally under control, we began to separate burdens that were shared in the past. Burdens like running our home, our parenting, our children’s education, and yes, our finances.
Since we were homeschooling, I became solely responsible for our kids education, including anything that had to do with my son’s college education, paperwork, scholarship applications, financial aid, financial responsibility. I took on anything home related as well, while I left discipline and the rest of the financial burdens to my husband.
Everything looked peachy at first, but can you guess what happened a few years down the line?
The perfect arrangement came crumbling down when new responsibilities and a big change in our lifestyle came about. Suddenly, our compartmentalized way of dealing with things was no longer effective, specially when our oldest children grew into adulthood, and claimed their independence.
In a matter of weeks we were hit with what seemed fiery arrows from every direction.
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