To every mother –
I didn’t know that sometimes you were stressed out. I didn’t know that there were days you worried about the bills. I didn’t know that you and Dad fought or had moments that were difficult. I didn’t know that you had so many things on your schedule, so many responsibilities on your shoulders. I didn’t know that there were days you gave us the last piece of chicken or the last slice of pizza even though you were hungrier than we were. I didn’t know that there were days that you felt overwhelmed; so overwhelmed you ended up in tears, crying to God for help.
I just didn’t know, Mom.
And Mama, after all these years, I don’t remember that one time that the rice was too mushy or the sauce was too salty. I don’t remember the day you burnt my toast a little and had to scrape off the burnt part. I don’t remember the day we spent in traffic or in line at the grocery store. I don’t remember the day you said “No” to the 15th toy at the store. I definitely don’t remember all 15 toys. I don’t remember that one month (or year, or decade HA!) that your room was a mess. So there’s a lot of things I don’t remember now, and so many things I didn’t know then.
But I do remember your sacrifice. I know it, now. I realize all you did – cook, clean, heal, inspire, teach, guide, correct, discipline, train, coach, build, encourage, hug, kiss, share, and SO MUCH MORE.
There are plenty of things I didn’t know then, not because I wasn’t paying attention, but because God, in His infinite grace and mercy, made me know what I needed to know: that you loved me and would always be there for me. There are plenty of things I don’t remember today, not because I ignored them or pretended they weren’t there, but because God is so good that He makes me remember the most important thing: that you, Mom, are a gift of never-ending, unconditional love.
Mommy, I don’t know what’s on your plate right now. I don’t know what your to-do list looks like, and I don’t know what most concerns you or keeps you up at night. But I’m here to tell you: please don’t let it be the small stuff! Please don’t let the absolutely unachievable lie of perfection get to you. Don’t let anyone (not even you!) tell you that you are not qualified to be a mom, that you’re not doing enough so you’ve got to try harder. Because the truth is, even if I didn’t know it then, I know it now – you are giving it your all! You have surrendered it all to Jesus!
So you know what? Let a few dishes pile in the sink. Let a few dinners come out average. Drop the ball on your schedule. It’s ok. Really. God is not looking at you as if you are a failure. Nope! God is pleased with your total surrender, and He will bless you for it!
One of the biggest blessings He’ll give you is making your kids know what they need to know about you. He’ll make them remember what’s most important about you. And I promise, your shortcomings and regrets won’t make it past God’s filter. Your kids love you, and someday they will thank-you.
For today, I thank you. Thank-you for your sweat, thank-you for your time, and thank-you for your tears. I see you. I love you. I pray for you.
Be blessed, Sister, just as you have blessed your family, your children, and me.
Your Spiritual Daughter,
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Sandra Andrade is the founder of Grasp Love (www.grasplove.com). She is passionate about all things Jesus, and is eager to respond to God’s call to encourage people, serve them, and bring them together under His name. She serves as music director and worship leader at her church, and also teaches the Bible to children. She currently resides in South Florida with her family, part of which is a Lab mix named Ranger.