As a mom of five beautiful children whose faith is her lifeline, I knew I wanted to raise my kids according to the Gospel.
From an early age, I wanted to instill in them the wonder and awe and peace and protection the Gospel offers.
I have learned over the years that sometimes life can get in the way of our plans, our dreams, and our hopes.
Yet, oftentimes it is these detours and bumps along the road that brings us right where we need to be: at the feet of Jesus.
I know that my mothering journey has been one filled with lots of U-turns, tears, and sometimes downright frustrations.
As a mom who loves to figure out a way to make things work, I knew that spending time learning how to be a Gospel-centered parent would be time well spent.
This is what I have learned in my decade of experience in raising my brood.
Create a Mission Statement
Stop. Right. Here.
Before you are tempted to move onto the next point and think that this step is not for you, I need you to wait!
This is the most crucial step. It is the foundation of it all. Without a foundation, the rest will fall.
As the Amish proverb says: “Having a happy home is not merely a roof over your head, but a foundation under your feet.”
This mission statement is that foundation.
In creating a mission statement, brainstorm what your absolute non-negotiables are. Lay out your beliefs, your hopes, and your passions for your family.
Here is our mission statement:
And you are welcome to take that exact mission statement, insert your family’s specific needs and you have it.
Your foundation is set.
If you want to know more about this foundation and how to make your home a haven, CLICK HERE.
With the foundation set, it is time to put some actionable steps in place.
Young children are not going to be able to read the mission statement and get started. However, they are going to understand some simple, enforcable rules.
I learned the magic of these rules from the Power of Moms. I have been going through the Family Systems e-course and the information is golden.
This eCourse will walk you through each step involved in creating the three systems that can set your family up for success:
- Building Your Family Legal System (helping children WANT to behave the way you want them to behave by establishing a positive and loving environment with clear and consistent laws and consequences)
- Building Your Family Economic System (teaching your children about work and money through building a micro-economy in your home that mirrors real-world economic principles and helps your children learn the importance of work and the value of money)
- Building Your Family Culture (creating a strong family identity and culture that can trump peer culture and offer your children the sense of belonging and fun they crave)
It is the real deal. I am gleaming so much Gospel-centered material for parenting from this course.
In addition, I have been using their rules in our home:
There you have it: peace, respect, asking, order, obedience.
The best part of these family rules is that I can place the blame on the rules and not always myself.
For example, when the kids are bickering, I remind them that they are breaking our family rule of peace.
I then have them sit on the redemption step (another trick I learned from the Power of Moms), and we work on their own responsibility to the issue.
The 3 C’s of Parenting
With our foundation set in our mission statement and our rules firmly placed, it is much easier to apply what I call the 3 C’s of Parenting: Choices, Consequences, and Consistency.
We cannot train our children to obey and love God if we do not first provide them with the 3 C’s.
Our kids must learn how to make choices.
While living in our home, it is important that we give our kids lots of chances to make big and small choices. God gave us free will to make choices, and the training for our children to make wise choices starts early and often.
Then, we move onto every choice has a consequence. Every time you say yes to something, you are saying no to something else.
It is essential to teach kids that there are real consequences to our choices.
In our home, these consequences are so much smaller than they will be in the real world. Our homes are a good place to practice consequences.
Choices are important. Consequences are essential. But consistency is vital.
Without consistency, all the choices and consequences in the world are not going to matter.
What is consistency in parenting? Doing what you say and saying what you mean.
These 3 C’s have provided such peace and stability to our home, and certainly to the big task of Gospel-Centered parenting.
Time in the Word
Now it is time for the nitty-gritty and the most important aspect of Gospel-Centered parenting: getting our children into the Word of God.
There are so many resources out there. I have found times in my life when I was unsure where to even begin.
As my parenting journey continued, I started to see that I needed to dive into the actual Word of God on a much more deeper level with my children.
After much research and prayer, I landed on the Bible Road Trip.
Bible Road Trip™ is an engaging, fun, three-year Bible survey curriculum for preschool through high school.
That means that if you start in preschool, you can take your child all the way through the Bible five times by the time he or she graduates from high school.
Paired with leveled notebooking journals and Bible memory verse card sets, Bible Road Trip™ is a full solution for your family’s Bible teaching needs!
I am so in love with this Bible curriculum. It has literally revolutionized our time in the Word. We are really studying Scripture and doing it together.
Find a way that works for your family to be in the Word of God every single day.
When our parenting lines up with the teachings in the Gospel, we find such peace in our lives.
I have seen it firsthand.
The biblical truths are essential to parenting. They are not archaic, but rather applicable to every apsect of parenting.
My prayer for you is that you will discover the amazing parent God has created only you to be!
With a mission statement, family rules, the 3 C’s of parenting, and time in the Word, you are well on your way to teaching your kids the wonder of God’s grace and mercy in our lives.
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